Last weekend, John and I attended a BDSM club and after playing, John drove us home. I was tired and exhausted, but when we entered the house, he said “I could use something to eat”. So, at 3 in the morning, I went into the kitchen to make him scrambled eggs on toast, some sausages and a cup of tea, while he snuggled up in bed and waited for me to serve the dish. When he was finished, I went back into the kitchen, did the dishes and cleaned the oven. Then I was allowed to go to bed as well.
Sometimes my friend W asks me “What is it like to be a sub, 24/7?”, and I’d say, the story above is all that is to it. But I thought it might be fun to write down some details:) But before I start, I just want to add that all I talk about here is true for John and me and doesn’t represent any other 24/7-couples! Let’s start 🙂
Being John’s 24/7-sub is all about devotion, obedience, serving and striving to be the best you can. He doesn’t allow himself any laxness and for sure he won’t forgive you any.
Concerning yourself that means: stick to the rules he has given to you. Take care for your body and your mental health. Eat, drink and sleep enough. Be helpful. Be polite. Be dutyful. Always tell the truth. Secrets? Not allowed. Swearing? Not allowed. Take care for your body. Take showers every day, wash your hair at least three times a week. Shave all over, body hair is for Alphas only. Use a lotion. Use a perfume he has chosen for you. Dress well and appropriate.
Concerning your chores that means: do what he tells you to do when he tells you to. There is just one way a task can be fulfilled, and that is his way. His house shall be the home he likes to return to each evening, so keep it clean, tidy and neat. Keep everything in place. Your belongings have their own places. It is his house, so it’s him to decide what’s right. It’s his house, so of course he needs more space for his belongings than you. He tells you when the sink is clean and he decides what you’ll have to do if it is not. Take care for the details. Toilet paper ends get folded twice to form a nice triangle. At table, everything has its place. Socks must be sorted by colour and there is only one way to fold them.
Corcerning him that means: he is a busy man with a lot of responsibilities. When he comes home, he wants to relax. Welcome him back home, take his jacket and bring his slippers. Offer a drink/tea and just listen to him. He had a hard day and isn’t in the mood for your chitchat. You’ll get to know when you’re allowed to talk. Rather listen to him and offer a massage or a blowjob. He is hungry, so make dinner. You know what he likes and what he doesn’t even want to try. Stick to that, no experiments unless he has approved. Whenever he wants sex, you have to serve. Your body is his, so he gets whatever he desires, whenever and wherever. No no’s except for the limits you have approved. His satisfaction is obligatory, yours is a pleasantry. Be thankful. Swallow all he gives to you, it’s good for you. Say thank you. There’s no use in begging for anything, you only get what he wants you to have. Your cocklette is his, his cock is his. Respect his need for spare time he spends alone or with friends. He’ll tell you when you’re allowed to go and meet your friends, too. Never ask him where he’s been or with whom he has been, that’s none of your business unless he decides to tell you. You’re allowed to feel jealous, but you have no right to be possessive. Keep interesting for him. Read and watch news so that you understand what he is talking about. Be interested in all he says. His well-being is your highest good. A happy Dom equals a happy you.
Well, writing this down, I sometimes had to grin, because it sounds like John is more like a dictator than my husband, right? But to be honest, over the years we have come to quite a lot agreements, for example, I know he needs much time for himself, so he is OK with me being away more often than when we had just met. I have enough time for myself and my friends, no need to worry 🙂 But after all, if he’d tell me to stay home, I’d rather do that than go to my Yoga class.
In our everyday life, that 24/7-relationship has a lot of effects on how we do things. I tend to see myself as his maid/servant/slave/possession and him as my Owner/Master/Husband/Dad/Dom. He is the leader, the Alpha, the ruler.
I think there’ll be part 2 with some stories from our life together 🙂